Miller's Bolt is a fun read and a wonderful parable. It is the fictional story of a top-notch manager who is on the edge of being fired. For, although Jim Manion does his job well, he has unwittingly alienated his co-workers by how and what he has been thinking about them. Given three months notice, Jim seeks help from his friend Peter Miller, a consultant and personal development coach. Together the two of them work to save Jim's career.
The book's thesis helps us to understand how to have more control over our attitudes towards others, including members of the most challenging groups of difficult people ...close family, bosses, and colleagues. We positively can affect the behaviour of others towards us by the way we view them and how we feel about them. We have the power to attract or repel with our thoughts because of their affect on our attitude and feelings.
The concept that changing the way we think about things and people will produce different outcomes seems to have clinical, scientific support. The headline reads: "Sexual Fantasies Relieve Pain". But what Dr. Peter Staats of the Department of Anesthesiology and Critical Care Medicine at Johns Hopkins University actually said was that our perceptions of pain could increase or decrease our tolerance for it. In the study published in the Journal of Pain Symptom Management (1988 Apr, 15:4, 235-43), subjects given favourable messages about the beneficial effects of ice water hand immersion had better pain tolerance than those who were told that ice water exposure had negative consequences. This also seems to prove that how we think about someone can affect our relationships, positively and negatively.
There is support among the ancients for the concept as well. One of the Hebrew Proverbs (23:7) says: "For as [a man] thinks within himself, so he is. ..."
Now It's Your Turn!: If you already have read the book or choose to do so on my recommendation, let me know what you think and how you feel about it. (My 'Comment Section', in which you can share anonymously, will open to you when you click on "comments" immediately below this post.)